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Sobriety and recovery are two different things. Sobriety means you’re not acting out today, and that’s important. Recovery is what happens underneath: the intense mental obsession to act...

Yes, therapy helps many men with compulsive sexual behavior. A 2025 meta-analysis of 20 studies (2,021 participants), mostly cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy, found...

Your wife found out. Now you’re telling yourself the same thing you’ve told yourself for years: I’ll handle this. I just need to try harder this time. I get why you’d think...

Yes. I’ve watched it happen over and over, and I lived it myself. But the question underneath is the one that matters to you right now: will you recover? After sponsoring men, running groups,...

After finding out about betrayal, focus first on safety, accurate information, basic care, and support. You don’t need to decide the future of the relationship today. Unless safety, health,...

Your wife found out. And now every word out of your mouth sounds like another lie to her, even when it isn’t. In my experience, when a man keeps lying about cheating, it’s usually because...

Most guys think cheating only counts if you slept with someone. Your wife doesn’t see it that way, and research on partners of online affairs backs her up. Sexting, hookup apps, webcam...

Can a cheater actually stop? Yes, some do. In my program, the men who get fully honest, first with themselves and then with their partner, and who build real structure around that honesty, are the...

You got caught. Now you’re lying awake asking yourself the question underneath every other question: what kind of man does this? I think about this all the time, because almost every client who...

You’ve been asking yourself this question at 2 a.m. for a while now. Here’s the direct answer: no, not every man who cheats is a sex addict. Some men cheat once, feel sick about it, and...