I really appreciate how supportive you have been Russell and how hard you work to help all of us. I will never forget the tools you have given me to help myself and as a result be better able to help others. You are an exceptional person and I will always be grateful for this experience. You have really shown us how to walk the walk rather than just talk the talk. I am sober and doing well with my daily routine. I do need to work on intimacy which is still a challenge for me still. The ERP exercises I have begum have been very helpful for my OCD so far, but I need to expand on that with something else. Because of Wellness Seekers, I now have more courage to try other programs so I can make this healing journey a lifestyle-like eating well or exercise. I have made a pledge to myself to do at least one program every year from now on forever.

This program exceeded all of my expectations. Thank you! See you on the 30th.

I know I shared this with you but I think the group would appreciate it as well. Prior to my discovery my wife and I had been trying to have kids. Needless to say the discovery and fallout put that on hold but recently we've began being intimate again and trying and the entire experience has been just so positive. I'm able to stay present and in the moment and not have my mind wandering but also the actual act is much better too because I'm not numb mentally and physically from acting out. I said to my wife last night that it felt like the beginning of our relationship and she agreed. Overall it's been a great journey into sobriety and having a HEALTHY sex life just feels so rewarding

I've been part of the program for almost 2 months now and it really has changed my life for the better. I never thought I had an addiction to acting out but the day my wife discovered the secret behavior on my phone I knew I had a problem and reached out to Russell right away. The program has taught me to be present every day which has helped me to reconnect with my wife but also make better choices. It's also taught me how important patience is. Patience when my wife was experiencing betrayal trauma, patience when I was experiencing urges/withdrawal feelings. Long and the short though is if you do the work and commit to being honest with yourself and your partner your life will get better

Today marks 6 months sober for me! Proud of my work and while I’m still not with my wife, I feel better than I ever have with myself! Excited for the continued journey in my recovery and what the future holds!

My wife and I went to the beach this weekend for her birthday. It was snowy, brutally cold, and the windchill was around 6 degrees. On a whim, we ran together through the sand to the ocean, which was iced over along the edges. We touched the frozen water, took in the beauty of it all, laughed, and ran back with the wind ripping through us. It was uncomfortable, wild, and honestly beautiful because we did it together. What matters most isn’t the adventure itself, but what it represents. We are healing together.

For the first time, I’m truly seeing my wife, not just who I thought she was on the surface, but her depth. In the past, when she connected with people in conversation, I told myself she was being “attracted” to them. I now see clearly that was my insecurity talking, not reality. Through recovery and honest self work, I understand the truth: it’s her curiosity, her compassion, and her empathy for people who are struggling. What’s powerful is that we both tuned into that awareness independently and met each other there.

A few months ago, I couldn’t sit and talk with her for 10 minutes. Now we talk for 3 to 4 hours at a time. Real conversations. No masks. No defensiveness. No stuffing emotions. The turning point for me was the program, Russell, Raj and Josh and the men in this group, and learning how to acknowledge and sit with my emotions instead of numbing or escaping. The READ was huge it helped me let go of what I’ve been carrying and face what I avoided for years.

My wife recently told me: “There is a depth of honesty, vulnerability, and intimacy in you that I’ve never seen before.” That meant everything. I’m also learning how to support her healing from her own past trauma something I could never do when I was stuck in addiction and fear. I also know this clearly: this is lifelong work. I can never take it for granted. Recovery isn’t something I “complete.” I’m fully aware of that, and right now I’m smack in the middle of Phase 4, actively working my plan to not relapse. Staying honest, connected, and accountable is non negotiable for me.

The work isn’t over. It won’t stop. But the pain, the numbing, and the emotional chaos are losing their power and in their place, empathy, compassion, and love are growing stronger every day. I’m getting stronger. I’m sharing this because if you’re in the middle of the darkness right now there is light at the end of the tunnel. Healing is possible. Connection is possible. A deeper relationship than you ever imagined is possible. I truly don’t think I could have faced my past without this group and the support of other men walking the same path.

Thank you for walking it with me.

Afternoon everyone, wanted to get on todays call but was very busy sorry, wanted to thank Russell for this program, if you put in 100% you will get out of it what you need. I am totally sober and haven't even had a bad thought. Still supporting my wife and lots of empathy but it pays off. We are doing great. Since this program I have put a lot into my job and have gotten a promotion, I spent a lot of time at work before with lots of bad thoughts, this has changed and for the good. I wanted to wish you all well and have good thoughts!! Thanks again Russell and Greg!! I really appreciate you!! And all of you too. You learn a lot from others

I just wanted to take the opportunity, as this is my last day, to thank all of you wonderful gentlemen for your support and encouragement over the last 12 weeks. When I started this program, I was unsure of the group aspect of things, as I tend to be a very reserved and introverted person, but the group chat and group meetings have been a surprising and welcome highlight of this program. It was good to know that when I reached out, there was someone (or many someones) on the end who implicitly understood because they are walking the same path. So thank you all.

Hey Russel I hope all is well. Just wanted to say thank you for jump starting my sobriety. Today is one year of sobriety, no porn sites no prostitution sites and not texting or talking to anyone besides the one I'm with. Keep up helping the so many suffering souls out there dealing with this addiction. Thank you my friend I appreciate you more than you know!

Dude! That's amazing, I am soooo happy for you. You made my day

You've made my life worth living, thank you

Oh man thanks so much

Good evening everyone. I started my day doing all of my morning routines, and bookended it by doing my reading with a group friend. I followed with my 1 hour of contemplation and am ready to move on to Phase 4. I am SO grateful for this program, all of you, and have so much optimism regarding my recovery. It is truly life changing.

First big test of my sobriety being left alone for the day. Because I started my day with my all of my recovery routines and kept active and mindful, I can say I made it without a single urge or desire to act out. Picking my wife up now at train station. 47 days. Wouldn't have done it without this program.

I uploaded my accountability check-in for this week. I can't believe how good I am doing with this. Thank you so much for doing this. It is exactly what I needed. My wife is also very appreciative and grateful.

Good Morning Guy's Happy Monday! Just an observation I get up at 5:15 every morning, do my usually routine of coffee, prayer, take care of the dog, catch a little news. I Have realized that I have an extra 45 +/- minutes every morning. Before the program, that would have been my time to look at porn, get in that trance, and head down a rabbit hole of porn, and before I knew it, I was racing to get ready for work. Now, I have time for more prayers, meditation, quiet reflective time, and actually get to work early with a clear head. We know how our addiction affects or family and children, but how much of our life was spent feeding our addiction, loosing minutes, hours of "our" precious time. Just a thought.... Have a great day!